Thursday, February 6, 2014

See It For What It Really Is

Hello Beautiful People!




I hope all of you are doing well on this 6th day of February! This year has been blessed for me so far! Doors are beginning to open already. It's amazing. I pray that this year will treat you way better than the last!


I want to talk about perception today. A lot of times, we can see the way things are going before they actually go that way. We can label things, not out of judgment, but because we know ourselves, our wants, our desires, and our standards. We can pretty much categorize people or relationships before we ever go another step forward. I think this is a great skill to have! By knowing up front the way something will go, we can save ourselves a lot of unnecessary wasted time and heartache.


For example, you meet a guy/girl and all you see is friendship in your future. You may even tell the person that is all you see. You two may have a blast hanging out, spending time with one another, etc. but relationally, it's never really meant to go any further than that. Then, because of the great feelings you get when you're with that person, you begin to think you are supposed to be in a romantic relationship. You two decide to enter into a romantic relationship, involving yourselves at some of the most intimate levels. Things appear to be going wonderfully then something tragic happens that destroys the relationship and the friendship goes down with it. You feel horrible, then you remember, before it all started all you saw was friendship from the start.


I've been there and I am sure I am not the only one who has. Because we allow feeling to get in the way and control our decisions, we lose great friends who we probably had the most fun with. It's sad at times. We cause ourselves such great heartache. This is why in my opinion, we need to see and ACCEPT relationships for what they really are. Let friendships be friendships. It can save you so much time and one of the best friendships you could have ever had.


I am grateful for all of the experiences I have been allowed and I continue to grow and learn from everything that I have been through. Accepting relationships for what they really are can be hard but it can also be the best thing you could ever do for yourself and the other person involved. You will be happier and avoid painful experiences. So, whether you are friends with a person or your are in a relationship with a person now; evaluate your relationship. It can save you  and that other person a lot of trouble, time and most of all...you can save a friendship!


No matter what happens, always know....GREATER IS COMING!!!