Good Day All!!
First, I'd like to start off with my exciting news. I felt my baby's first kick on day 6, 10/4/15!!! It's so amazing to feel this little life growing inside my womb!!! What a wonderful thing to be able to experience! At this very moment, I speak to any woman reading this post who has been having trouble conceiving their own child. I want to decree and declare that your womb is healed and open to receive, grow, and incubate the beautiful life of a precious child, in Jesus name! I am believing with you. Do you believe?
I've been meaning to post that for days but the business of life got in the way. Now that I've shared my news, I'd like to share something that has been on my mind.
Daily, I deal with the affairs of other people, people I don't know personally but I hear of their personal life issues and a lot of the times, private family matters. This is all due to my profession. This week, my mind has been pondering one specific thing I hear quite often in regards to relationships.
Break ups are never easy, even when they may be mutual. Someone is always more hurt than the other person. And when the break up is result of the other person cheating, its never good. This is actually the kind of break up I want to hone in on. Well, more so the actions the hurt person takes after that kind of break up.
My question is this, why is it that the hurt person feels they have to retaliate or make the other person's life hard. I know what the cheating person did was wrong and I'm sure it hurt the other person to the core. I know from experience but what gives the hurt person the right to be vindictive and destructive afterwards.
What difference will your actions make? Will it turn back the hands of time and make the cheater refrain from cheating? In reality, you don't want to be with a person you cannot trust so why go through all of the trouble of crying, trying to fight the "other woman/man", or just trying to destroy the cheating person themselves?
I remember one guy ask me when I was still in my late teenage years and early 20s, "do you think your actions are going to make me want you back?" Being young and dumb at that time, that question really made me think. Why am I getting all worked up when clearly the choice has been made?
What's the point of being the "crazy ex" when your actions are actually working against you? You don't really want that person back, you just don't want them to be happy because you are not happy, you're hurting. What you are really doing is hurting yourself even more.
You are hurting your reputation, your character, the way people see you, what people think of you, etc. Of course you don't care what people think but guess what, when you finally wise up and are really ready for the real Man or Woman God has for you, guess who will be giving him/her their thoughts of you... People. The same people that witnessed all of the drama you caused, all of the games you played, and all of the evil actions you displayed. Then you wonder why you cannot find the one.
Listen to me, if you hear nothing else from this post today, hear this: Romans 12:19-21 reads, Do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, "Vengeance is Mine, I will repay," says the Lord. Therefore, "if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head." Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
In other words, as hard as it may be, continue to treat the person that hurt you with kindness, loving them as yourself, and they will reap what they have sown. That doesn't mean you have to be walked all over by them or continue to let them do you wrong, just don't try to take matters into your own hands because it won't end well for you. Let God handle it for you.
Psalm 37:9 reads, For evildoers shall be cut off; but those who wait on the Lord, they shall inherit the earth. For yet a little while and the wicked shall be no more; Indeed, you will look carefully for his place but it shall be no more. But the meek shall inherit the earth, and shall delight themselves in the abundance of peace.
The word meek means: humble, patient or docile, tame, gentle, and kind. You must be peaceful to have peace. Giving it totally and completely to God. Not giving it to social media, all of your friends, then God. God is the first, the last, and the only.
It may seem a lot easier said than done, I know, but it's the only way that truly works. I am a witness! So to all my hurting sisters and brothers who just want the other person to hurt as bad as you are, give it to God. Give him your hurt, your anger, your aggression. Tell Him how you feel, what you would like Him to do for you (no matter how cynical it may sound), and let God bring justice. He will. He is a God who cannot lie. Remind Him of his word.
Everything is going to be okay. It will not always be the way that it may be now. Greater days are coming. Your joy will be restored and your heart will be healed. You just have to stay out of the way and let God handle it all. GREATER IS COMING. Don't lose sight!
